At the beginning of the above-cited interview, Amir Tibon describes life in Kibbutz Nahal Oz before it was destroyed by Hamas, and it seems something like an ideal community, with its own civic rituals, where neighbors know each other well, and where public gatherings foster a genuine sense of togetherness. But in America, such communities, once present in small towns and urban neighborhoods, are rapidly disappearing—with grave social and psychological effects, exacerbated by the effects of smart phones and social media.
The exceptions to this trend are often found in religious communities, and especially in Orthodox Jewish ones, which are held together geographically by Sabbath observance and in other ways by a network of voluntary institutions. Seth Kaplan and Caroline Bryk examine the strengths of these communities, which they illustrate with a particularly striking personal example:
Shabbat forces our community members to live within walking distance of each other and of the synagogue, nurturing social ties that are stronger, more trusting, and more interdependent. This gives parents the confidence to allow their children more autonomy and unmonitored time away from home, all week long.
Earlier this summer, Caroline and her husband both assumed the other was bringing their seven-year-old son home from synagogue and accidentally left him there, almost a mile away from home, with no way to contact him (as we do not use phones on Shabbat). This said, they did not panic. On the contrary, she and her husband remained quite calm—surely, in a neighborhood filled with hundreds of families walking home from the same synagogue, a fellow community member would notice their son alone and bring him home. Sure enough, that is precisely what happened—a fellow community member took responsibility for their son without prompting.
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